Managing Human Resource: Improving Your People Skill, Part

our relationship Sumo Suit with all peopl will improveI feel sure that Jim Cockman ha forgiven the man and woman who kill him. When those of us still live can truli love our enemies..

an outstand busi leader,Thi is part two of an articl on the wisdom of Jame Cockman. who wa my mentor and client. Jim s life wa tragic taken in 2004 by a coupl who met with him, sai thei want to bui an SUV he wa selling.

I found a piec of paper Jim had fax to me in 1995 with twelv insight statement he d written about human behavior and communication. Here ar the final six statementsGo through a folder recently..

know that you have the power within you to do it. Noth is imposs when your desir is strong enough and you believ you can do it. Henri Ford said,1. INPIDUA LS HA VE ALL THE RESOURCES NECESSA RY TO MA KE ANY DESIRED CHA NGE. Thi is true and isn t it nice to know. If you want to make a chang in your life. If you think you can do a thing or think you can t do a thing, you re right.

grow,2. INPIDUA LS PROCESS ALL INFORMA TION THROUGH THEIR FIVE SENSES. I agree; that s why God gave them to us. Physic be must us their sensori percept to learn. and understand – inde even to live in thi world. And isn t it interest than when someon lose on of those senses, other grow stronger to compens for the loss. If Jim were alive, I would ask him what about our intellect and emotions? Don t we us our thought and feel also to process information?

OPEN SENSORY CHA NNELS. When we re bog down with neg thought and emotions,3. RECOGNIZING RESPONSES REQUIRES CLEA N. how can we respond clearli and posit to what s go on in our live or the live of others? Sometim we respond to situat with a knee-jerk reaction, not stop to analyz the situat or examin what s caus our stress. When we take care of our mind and bodi we ar more capabl of recogn why we respond as we do. And we ar more like to have more posit and success outcomes.

tall,4. INPIDUA LS WITH THE MOST FLEXIBILITY HA VE THE HIGHEST PROBA BILITY OF ACHIEVING THE RESPONSE THEY DESIRE. Recent I wa sit outsid on a windi dai watch and listen to the wind blow through the trees. I thought of all the time tree have been us as a metaphor for how we should live. Tree ar well grounded. and strong. Yet if thei were to resist the wind, thei would break. It s onli becaus thei bend with the breez that thei re abl to remain standing. It s hard for human to understand that when the strong wind of life try to break us, we accomplish more by non-resist than by fight unpleas circumstances. But it s true.

which leav you feel bewild and saying,5. THE MEA NING OF THE COMMUNICA TION IS THE RESPONSE IT ELICITS. Some mai argu that s not the case. You might sai someth that get misinterpreted. That s not what I meant. The bottom line is the respons you get is the mean for the person with whom you re try to communicate. So it behoov us to think befor we speak and be clear in our meaning. When we speak from our heart, we have a greater chanc of have more meaning and success commun with others.

ONLY RESPONSES. Rememb Strother Martin s famou line in the movi Cool Hand Luke? What we ve got here is failur to communicate. Then he commun – with a bang! What Jim mean here is we cannot fail to communicate,6. THERE ARE NO FA ILURES IN COMMUNICA TION. and even no respons is still a response. If we fail to get the respons we expect or desir when commun with others, we need to examin our commun style, learn to express ourselv more clearly, and be honest about our motivations.

I m in the process of read Eckert Toll s book A New Earth. I m learn that when our commun and relationship with other and ourselv come from the ego,A I write thi article. we fail to express who we realli are. When we becom awar of our egoic thoughts, feelings, and actions, the ego begin to fade and we ar better abl to come from Spirit.

When you recogn the ego for what it is collect dysfunct .you don t take it other peopl action person anymore. There is no complaining,Tol says. blaming, accusing, or make wrong. Then he sai we begin to have more compass for ourselv and others.